When I married my husband I relenquished the words I & me and traded it for us. In a world full of self serving choices, love isn’t about serving yourself. Love is about serving your other half and beyond that relationship love is about serving others. It doesn’t mean that we never allow each other some ‘me’ time. Having ‘me’ time is healthy and important, it aids in our self care. What an ‘us’ mentality means, is that the decisions we make in life have to do with ‘us’ not only ‘me’. Having kids, where we live, our jobs, our lifestyle choices, our core beliefs, our finances, and beyond are made with ‘us’ in mind.

When you participate in a committed relationship, all the decisions made will directly or indirectly affect each partner. If we live in relationships with a self serving attitude, we are putting our partners below us without considering how our actions will translate in our mates life. When we turn around our selfish decisions into thoughtful considerations that will benefit both, we experience the true beauty and fulfilment that a relationship can bring. This attitude in a relationship does not go without saying that there is some give and take. There are times when one partner has to sacrifice something for the other person. The practice that must take place is that it goes both ways. One participant in the relationship cannot hog all the focus. Sacrificing is required by both at different times in life. The ebb and flow of giving and taking creates fulfilment for both people in the relationship, it is an expression of love.

Yesterday my husband and I celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary. I am overjoyed to feel deeper in love, respect, friendship, partnership, and fulfillment than when we first got married. The road has had its challenges, but we have been successful in our marriage because we were able to recognize selfish decisions and put a stop to them. We have been able to turn around the ‘me’ moments into ‘us’ moments. Those are the decisions that have given us a marriage of fulfilment and fun. I can only pray and be intentional as the future unfolds, to commit myself to decisions and choices that involve us. Happy Anniversary to my one true love❤️

~live your journey true~